i heard this piece of advice once and really liked it: "don't compare your insides to other people's outsides."
my friend gus puts it like this: other people are like planes that we can only see the outside of and we don't know their inner workings, whereas for ourselves, we see the cockpit. we see all the inner work…
i heard this piece of advice once and really liked it: "don't compare your insides to other people's outsides."
my friend gus puts it like this: other people are like planes that we can only see the outside of and we don't know their inner workings, whereas for ourselves, we see the cockpit. we see all the inner workings that we can't see for others. so we can only imagine what goes on inside of other people. (and we can listen to them and believe them, of course, but we'll only have our own direct, subjective experience.)
i think it's both true that there are many people who may be experiencing similar things to you (thinking that everyone else is great, INCLUDING YOU, but feeling swampy on the inside), AND ALSO it is possible to feel better about oneself than you do. (since you said that therapy has been helping some, i would take that as direct evidence that you CAN feel better than you once DID. and that can keep happening.)
is your brain any less stubborn than it once was? is it possible that it could become less stubborn still? the idea that your "brain is stubborn" sounds like a story that may be true the more we tell ourselves things like that. i'm not saying you have to stop telling it. i'm just asking, is it possible that it might not always be as true as it has been in the past? is there room for that?
finally, i'll offer how great it is that you have a happy marriage and the friends you do and the job where you help people and you know all of those things and can name them. even if that's you "talking a good game." sometimes talking a good game is the beginning of PLAYING a good game. of BEING a good game.
thank you for again for sharing! i find what you have offered very valuable to this universe.
Suuper beautifully said. I wholeheartedly believe that even mustard-seed sized conversations of kindness between strangers like this can and will move mountains of pain in this world.
thank YOU, Mary Ellen.
i heard this piece of advice once and really liked it: "don't compare your insides to other people's outsides."
my friend gus puts it like this: other people are like planes that we can only see the outside of and we don't know their inner workings, whereas for ourselves, we see the cockpit. we see all the inner workings that we can't see for others. so we can only imagine what goes on inside of other people. (and we can listen to them and believe them, of course, but we'll only have our own direct, subjective experience.)
i think it's both true that there are many people who may be experiencing similar things to you (thinking that everyone else is great, INCLUDING YOU, but feeling swampy on the inside), AND ALSO it is possible to feel better about oneself than you do. (since you said that therapy has been helping some, i would take that as direct evidence that you CAN feel better than you once DID. and that can keep happening.)
is your brain any less stubborn than it once was? is it possible that it could become less stubborn still? the idea that your "brain is stubborn" sounds like a story that may be true the more we tell ourselves things like that. i'm not saying you have to stop telling it. i'm just asking, is it possible that it might not always be as true as it has been in the past? is there room for that?
finally, i'll offer how great it is that you have a happy marriage and the friends you do and the job where you help people and you know all of those things and can name them. even if that's you "talking a good game." sometimes talking a good game is the beginning of PLAYING a good game. of BEING a good game.
thank you for again for sharing! i find what you have offered very valuable to this universe.
love,
myq
Suuper beautifully said. I wholeheartedly believe that even mustard-seed sized conversations of kindness between strangers like this can and will move mountains of pain in this world.
thank you for this, grace!
PS i love the name "grace fierce."
Thank YOU, Myq☺️